Does everyone remember Mo’Nique? She’s the woman who played the abusive mother in Precious and she also won a Golden Globe for that performance. I had never heard of her before Precious, (I don’t think many people had), but she won me over with her acceptance speech. In it, she looked at her husband, Sidney Hicks, and said some of the most touching words I have ever heard in an awards speech. What was most touching about her speech were the words she reserved for her husband. Here’s what she said,
“And when I look into the eyes of the man I stood next to at 14 years old, and I said to him, “One day we’re gonna be stars.” And he said, “You first.” And we walked this red carpet together tonight. Sidney, I love you more than you will ever know, baby.”
It was one of the most heartfelt and genuine speeches I truly have ever heard. And I really thought that I was listening to someone talking about a love that’s so true, so rare, and so pure. But wait. The love that Mo’Nique and Sidney Hicks share may not be so pure or rare after all. In the Barbara Walters Oscars Special, which will air Sunday night after the Oscars, Barbara interviews Mo’Nique. In the interview, Mo’Nique talks about her marriage to Sidney and she reveals some pretty interesting things about it. Including how they have an open marriage because she doesn’t feel the need to be insecure about their relationship. From Celebrity Dirty Laundry,
“The ‘Precious’ actress – who has been married to Sidney Hicks for the past 25 years – claims they have an open relationship which wouldn’t be destroyed if he were to have an affair. Speaking on the Oscar night edition of ‘The Barbara Walters Special’, she said: “Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That’s not a deal-breaker. That’s not something that would make us say, ‘pack your things and let’s end the marriage.’ ”
The 42-year-old star – who is favourite to win Best Supporting Actress at the Oscars on Sunday night (07.03.10) – said it was because she had been with Sidney so long that she would still feel “comfortable and secure” in their relationship no matter how unfaithful he was. She added: “What if it’s 20 times? So what? We’ve been best friends for over 25 years, and we truly know who we are. Oftentimes, people get into marriages and they don’t know who they’re laying next to. I’m very comfortable and secure with my husband.”
It’s unclear whether or not Mo’Nique and Sidney actually have an open marriage, or whether she just wouldn’t kick him to the curb for having an affair – or 20 of them. If it’s the latter, I think she’s deluding herself into thinking she’d be more understanding than she really would be. Especially because she thinks she’d be okay with it if it happened 20 times. I’m sorry, what kind of woman is okay with being married to someone who can’t keep his hands off other people? I realize that you could forgive once, maybe twice. But anymore than that, and you’re entering Elin Nordegren territory – and at least she’s getting a big payout for staying.
And if it is true that Mo’Nique and Sidney actually do have an open marriage, I have to say I’ll be disappointed. I really was moved by that speech, and happy to know that not all Hollywood marriages seem to be doomed or tainted. I’d hate to have to lump these two in with the rest of em.